Just Getting Angrier...

I know, I know..it's probably not fair, but I' m just getting angrier and angrier and more frustrated and hurt and pulling in on myself and having to walk on eggshells...


So, the other day hubby wanted a lunch meat sandwich only there wasn't any left and I had not gone back to do any grocery shopping as I was waiting for my regular shopping day. To say he was upset would definitely be an understatement. I so got yelled at. I didn't eat it all. He didn't eat it all. His son ate it all. I had 2 servings of all the lunch meat I had bought. His son ate a pound of turkey breast and several packages of the Buddig meats I bought. Now, I bought enough food for the week, or at least thought I had. Not so. But did he say anything to his son, no. Just yelled at me. I didn't argue back but I did say to him that I didn't eat it all nor his hot dogs. And my daughter never had any, I checked to make sure.
I think what hurt the most was the fact that he YELLED at me in front of his son. And his son never said one word about how much he ate.

Now, I realize I must shop for a growing family and especially one with a 20 yr old boy who weigh's 260lbs and puts away the food. Then there's the step daughter who is now here...so I think I'm basically shopping for 6 now. Anyway, it's been a long time since I had a family of 5 to feed and I'm having to adjust and try to figure out meals as well as lunch foods and breakfast foods...So I've been going through my old recipes that fed a lot of people and do you know, that boy of his eats HALF the casseroles???? If you want any of the left overs, you better get some and hide it...seriously.


So there was that. Then when I try to tease a bit about the kids and food and such he gets all over me. Now, he does this SAME thing to MY daughter and I've not ever said anything to him, til now. I said, "So, it's okay for you to tease me about things and tease my daughter about things but I'm not allowed to do the same back? Don't you think that's a double standard?" But he blows it off. I don't get it. 


Then there is the issue of his 16 yr old daughter smoking. It's our household. There should be rules about underage children NOT smoking as it is against the law. She's not of age. Who's going to purchase the things for her? And if it's wrong for her to be smoking outside of the house then why is it not wrong for her to be smoking inside the house? Tell me..someone..anyone..
Yes, I knew she was before she came here but I also spoke with him about it and asked that she not be and follow some kind of rules in the house. Well, that's not to be.
She will be allowed to smoke. End of conversation. (this is what I'm told: she's been smoking since she was 13 because of her mother's treatment of her and it's her way of rebelling.  She already had the drugs taken away, the alcohol taken away, wrong influential people taken away and of course, her mother passing on...so there is no way he's going to take away her smoking too...)
All righty then...Then the conversation went like this: "Didn't you smoke when you were a teenager? No, honestly, I did not. Not until I left home because my parents would have killed me. And No, the 3 children I raised did not smoke until they left home or were 18 at least. Because of the rules that were set. If they did it outside of my sight then I didn't know but from what I know, they never touched the stuff. " Then he says, "Well, I did from a very young age and I'm not going to tell her she can't."
So then, it finished like this: He says, "Do we have an understanding?" Well, what the hell am I supposed to say to that????
I told him I heard him but that's not the answer he wanted. He got his answer, but I'm getting more and more resentful. And that's NOT good.


If it had just been his daughter that moved in with us, I think I'd be fine but I'm sure there'd still be some issues that would just not get dealt with. But, seriously, these two are thick as thieves..the two that are THE closest and I do NOT trust them.

There is going to be problems for the hubs and I if something doesn't get compromised. Normally when we don't agree, we talk and compromise. With his children, there is NO compromising. I seriously have done a lot of compromising and listening where my daughter is concerned but not where his children are. 


I think I may end up having to just shut things out, stay in other rooms by myself or something so that I won't be the one to "see" and let his eyes be opened...if they ever will.




Til Later All...


BlueEyedWonder