Annoyance...

Annoyance..


That seems to be my word of choice lately. It seems to be in varying forms, such as: annoyed, annoy, and of course annoyance.


Ever since the 20 year old stepson has moved in this is how I have begun to feel. An he's only been here a month. He's settling in to some kind of routine where it seems I have NO alone time whatsoever, unless I leave the house.
He's beginning to leave messes. Not huge ones but ones I end up going behind and cleaning up. I swear my household clean up has become even more so. I am constantly washing dishes. And to say the boy can eat, is an understatement!
I found out the other day that he ways 260lbs. And he's only about 5ft 10in. and at that weight he was down about 50lbs from my understanding.


He drinks pots of coffee like there's no tomorrow. He eats everything in sight without a THOUGHT as to maybe other people might want to have a little bit. And if you want anything of leftovers, you better hide you a helping! 


Annoyed.


Yes, I've spoken some to Rick but it seems I can't say a whole lot because then it seems I'm picking. No, I'm trying to save us 250.00 a week grocery bills!! Goodness, I'm not working yet(although, I hope to be here very soon). Me working will help immensely even if it is part-time at least there will be some extra. 


Rick is noticing that I'm going around with a lot of heavy sighs lately. I'm trying not to do this in front of him but it seems that every time I sigh, he just happens to be there at that moment....((((sigh)))).


On top of all this, he's trying to finish the second bedroom (the one that will actually be for the step-son) while we're trying to get Christmas gifts for the kids and each other and nephews & nieces and the Mama. To me, right now, it doesn't need to be done. The step-daughter will only be able to be here for 2 weeks as we've not heard yet from the state of TN on when they will get out here and do the "house check & family check" thing.
I keep telling Rick, they are not going to do a thing until after the first of the year and we don't need to try to get everything done all at once because we don't have the money for it. Does he listen, no, just like any man...he gets a burr up his butt and just does whatever with NO thought as to the outcome. 


I know he's trying to keep a positive attitude that she'll end up staying and the state will move quickly (and waste half of a round trip ticket) but seriously, ANY state government to move quickly???? Laughable..HA.  I'm trying to keep my perspective on this but it's quickly dwindling.


This boy is no closer to getting his drivers license than my 17 year old (and she just doesn't like to drive). Which means he's no closer to getting a job of his own and taking on responsibility of his own. He talks about going into the Navy. Well, he needs to lose about 70lbs...Not gonna happen if he doesn't stop eating like he does. He's a growing boy all right...growing out, not up!!! 


It was one thing to say, "hey, yeah, lets have the step-daughter come live with us", as I know she really needs this but it's another to have the step-son. I really didn't and don't want him here....I really feel the boy has issues that are not being dealt with and I don't know what to do about them, if anything...


Anyone got any advice before I blow up?? This is not what I signed up for. Not the future I was seeing with Rick. All I know is, I've got to figure out some things for myself...but need a bit of advice and someone to talk to who's been there...


Ok, I think I've whined enough today but I'll be back another day!


Til Later All!!


BlueEyedWonder